Monday, July 5, 2010
The Art of Saying "No."
This realization came after a particularly arduous day at work, followed by another "crisis" that demanded my attention into the wee hours of the morning. Do you know who I didn't get to ask how their day was, after talking about how everyone else's day was ad nauseam? Shug. Do you know who had to eat dinner by himself as I attended to the rest of the world's issues? Shug. Do you know who pulled the covers over me and turned out the light when I had crumpled into bed after I had exhausted every last resource of energy I had for the day? Shug.
So, lines in the sand have been drawn. I am now set to protect the modicum of safety and sanity we've built together. This is hard for me. I'm practically unwinding my own DNA every time I tell a person "no" now. It's hard because I do care about these people that ask and ask and ask, but I also need to start caring a little more about me. I'm not talking about being selfish, just reserving enough for myself so I am capable enough to attend to my own relationships and priorities. Typing that just gave me a migraine.
Is it difficult for you to tell people "no?"